I’m so happy to have Sam @ Better With Sprinkles guesting posting on the blog today! Sam’s blog has become a regular read of mine. Her posts are always so inspirational, honest and relatable. Oh and she shares lots of yummy food too – never a bad thing! ;-) Today’s post is something many people struggle with - body image and acceptance. It definitely struck a chord with me and I hope you’ll be able to take something positive out of it too. Its all yours Sam!
Hi, Eat Great BE Great readers – so happy to be filling in for Holly today! My name is Sam, and I blog over at Better With Sprinkles, where I focus on living the best life possible with my boyfriend and my pug after recovering from an eating disorder.
So today, I wanted to talk to you about the expectation that people are taught to strive for: being ‘skinny’ or ‘in shape’. Unfortunately, the society we live in is extremely focused on the shape and size of women’s bodies. When you turn on the TV, how many ads do you see for gyms, diet foods, diet programs? And then you have your ads for run-of-the-mill products being displayed to you by a size-zero, ‘perfectly’ proportioned models.
And nowadays, we have things like Tumblr, Pinterest and Instagram, filling our heads with images and mindsets like this:
Staring at those images all day, it’s no wonder that so many of us suffer from self-esteem and body image issues. It’s also no surprise that we seem to think that we need to ‘fix’ our bodies in order to be happy.
Through the media, society has managed to implant a nonsensical idea in the minds of most of its viewers. That skinny = happy. That life won’t start until we lose those last ten pounds. Do you want the man/woman, the job, the cute outfits, the happiness? You don’t deserve it until you look like those models you see on the runway, or you have the super-cut, six-pack abs seen in fitspo pictures online.
Well, I want to remind everyone that this is NOT the case. One of the images I stumbled across recently shows an incredibly fit woman with the words “Be happy. Be proud. Be confident. Be YOU” running across it. I agree that these are all things that we should strive for in our lives. But why do our bodies come into it? You can be happy, proud, confident, and yourself, regardless of what your body looks like. We need to learn to be proud and confident in our own bodies NOW, rather than waiting until we reach unattainable goals – no one can look like a photo-shopped model.
So, live your life the way you want to. I think most people can agree that confidence is an incredibly attractive, desirable trait in someone. Sure, we all need to learn how to love our bodies. So instead of putting all of our mind-power into thinking about our physical traits, what should we be focusing on?
Our minds. Our personalities. Our humor. That, ultimately, is what people will notice, and what will draw people and opportunities to you. Not our bodies, so that shouldn’t be at the forefront of our minds, and we shouldn’t be waiting until we have the ‘perfect’ body to chase our dreams. Go for them now, because a life spent waiting to achieve some unattainable goal of physical perfection or improvements is not one worthy of you. Learn to appreciate the body you have while you aim for more important goals. You are your personality, not your body – learn to love the body you have, while focusing on the more important things.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on body acceptance, body shaming in the media, and the societal ‘life-starts-after-I-lose-ten-pounds’ syndrome! And of course, I’d love it if you swung by my blog to say hi ;-)
Have a good one!