Good morning and Happy Monday!!! Hope everyone had an amazing weekend!
As mentioned on Friday, Justin and I celebrated our 6 year wedding anniversary (October 27, 2007) this weekend. I can’t believe it’s been 6 years, although we’ve actually been together for a total of 12 years! The time has flown by insanely quickly. I remember our first date, our first trip to the beach together, the proposal, planning the wedding, the wedding itself and everything in between so clearly and here we are 12 years later – it seems like all these things happened just yesterday. Come to think of it, Justin and I have been together almost half my life. Crazy, huh!?!
Justin and I started dating in November of 2001. I was a senior in high school and he had just started his first year of college, although we were acquainted with each other even before that. Ironically, when I was a freshman in high school, we in the same Spanish class together, but never spoke to one another. A few years later, my brother and Justin happened to be taking a guitar class together. They sat next to each other, became friends and he started coming over to the house. After about a year or so, we talked more and developed a friendship; then he “officially” asked me out and the rest is history. Funny how things happen sometimes! It definitely was unexpected, but I guess it was meant to be! :-)
In all the time we’ve been together, we’ve certainly learned a lot about ourselves, each other and what it takes to develop a healthy relationship. It’s by no means easy and relationships and/or marriages take a lot of effort on both sides to make things work.
Although it takes some practice, communication is key to a healthy relationship. We can’t get into each other’s heads, so it’s important to be open and honest – express your feelings and talk things through. This holds especially true when there are important issues to be discussed or there’s disagreement. I’ve found that calmly and effectively laying it all out in the open is important to work through those difficult topics. It doesn’t do any good to raise voices, attack each other, pass blame or say hurtful things. There’s no “I” in a relationship, so working issues out as a team will allow both sides to be heard.
A relationship involves two people – the my way or the highway type mentality isn’t going to fly. I’ve got to be honest with you though, this one has been a hard one for me to adhere to sometimes because of my Type A personality. Lets face it, Justin and I both have different personalities, habits and idiosyncrasies, but both of us have learned to bend and be flexible to those things. I’m not going to say it’s always easy, but it’s always necessary for a relationship to work.
I’ve known people who are married or in a relationship just for the sake of being with someone. There’s no love or feeling behind it – it’s a sad way to live. So the question remains, what is love? I think the answer is personal and different for every person who tries to define it. So, what does love mean for me…love is a sense of calm and security you get from being with someone for so long – a sense of contentment. With love you accept the good, the bad and the ugly sides of the other person, and are there for each other no matter what. Love grows – I’ve found that the love that Justin and I have for each other becomes deeper over the 12 years we’ve had together.
There is no doubt that relationships require an open-mind. With each phase of life, there will be new lessons to be learned, but I’m blessed to have Justin by my side now and forever, and can’t wait to see what the future has in store for us. I’m a very lucky girl indeed!
In your opinion, what makes a relationship work?
What does love mean to you?
Do anything fun over the weekend?